Forgiving The Little Things
November 12th, 2008
Do you naturally overlook offenses or do you tend to note them, even if quietly? Perhaps the answer depends upon how sensitive you are to the actions and inactions, words and silence of others. If you tend toward emotional neediness you may be more inclined to notice what you perceive as slights from those whose attention you desire. Insecurity can also promote a spirit of bitter suspicion by planting the seeds of doubt about others’ intentions and feelings toward you. No matter the cause, it’s important to note that holding on to the mental “rap sheets” of others’ words and behavior in quiet bitterness does nothing to meet your needs or improve your relationships.
Making Time For Personal Development
November 5th, 2008
In today’s world it often seems that “making time” is the hardest part of starting on a journey of personal development. Time to recharge your batteries can be difficult enough to obtain, much less the additional time and energy needed for the mental and emotional processing of self-discovery and personal growth. So how do you begin?
Locus of Control
October 29th, 2008
(Note: Today’s post is courtesy of GoalGeek)
Have you ever heard the term, “locus of control”? Locus of control is a psychology term describing the orientation a person has in terms of perceiving an ability to influence and control the results one obtains in life. Your locus of control is said to be either internal, meaning you feel responsible for the results you obtain or fail to obtain in your life, or external, meaning you are more inclined to attribute your results to the environment, other people, or possibly fate. Your locus of control has a significant influence on goal setting, including whether you are even inclined to set goals in the first place and how diligently you will work to achieve them.
The Benefits Of Knowing Yourself
October 22nd, 2008
Popular culture often discredits the individual who is admittedly trying to “find” him or her self. “Finding yourself” is a phrase that conjures up images of lost souls and irresponsible behavior–it’s what you’re supposed to do after you get a divorce, quit school, or start taking drugs, etc. Although this popular image has its roots and staying-power in real life examples, the lesson to be learned is that you should know yourself as well as possible in order to prevent difficult situations. When it comes to knowing your values, motivations, strengths and weaknesses, ignorance is not bliss. Here are some distinct benefits to knowing yourself well:
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How To Talk To People
October 15th, 2008
Do you avoid social situations because of the awkwardness of talking to people you don’t know? Maybe it’s a group activity at work or school, or perhaps a friend requests your company at a party where you don’t expect to know anyone. Talking to others can be intimidating for the shy soul. Yet, spending time with others and meeting new people is often exactly the kind of stimulation we need and desire in order to thrive as individuals and reach our potential. The good news is, you don’t have to become someone else in order to gain confidence in talking to people. Here are some hints to increase your social success and enjoyment of others:
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Where Does My Value Come From?
October 8th, 2008
Have you ever thought about where you derive value as a person? This question can be difficult to answer if you’re in a hard place in life. Sometimes we may only see the negative in ourselves–the failed goals, the broken relationships, the lost opportunities. But thankfully, these things don’t tell the whole story of who we are! Everyone without a doubt has value to others, be it manifest or potential. Here are four areas in which you can begin to discover the value you possess:
7 Ways To Get To Know Yourself
October 1st, 2008
“Who am I?” Have you ever asked yourself this question? Whether you’re looking for a career change or starting over at the end of a long relationship, there are many occasions when life’s circumstances may prompt this sensible question. Maybe you’re simply motivated to know yourself better so that you can start focussing on your strengths. No matter your reason, getting to know yourself is a worthwhile endeavor that you can begin today for maximum rewards. Here are some ideas to get you started on your journey of self discovery:
